That's right. As I mentioned above, putting yourself first is the key to inspiring a man to put you first. If you don't feel good about yourself and have high self-esteem, you won't have what I call a “high degree of difficulty.”
That's when a man perceives that you honor and respect yourself, and you know what you will or will not tolerate.
Of course, it's impossible to do this when you are using so much of your time and energy to please your man and give him what you think he wants. Which leads me to the next step that saved my marriage and can save your marriage.